A little bit from my next published chapter about healing from broken relationships
......As many young children learn, life teaches that someone else's stress and grief get displaced on them, which means they are not enough for emotional love, and in return, get emotionally neglected. Mostly I felt let down and empty, which gave me an insecure attachment in adulthood. The emotional script becomes disorganized and polarized by fear at times as a child fully depends on these attachments to caregivers. Attachment forms from zero to three, which changes and forms the brain. This also produces counter-dependence (avoidant attachment) and co-dependence (anxious attachment) and a bond break or even trauma. John Bowlby, a British psychiatrist and the father of attachment therapy, proved this early interaction shapes a child’s personality and adult romantic relations.